Self-Care 101

A couple of weeks ago, I wrote a post on self-love and it gave me some inspiration to start a new category titled, "self-lessons". Now, I haven't created the category yet so don't go looking for it. However, it is under construction as we speak and I can't wait to finally share it with all of you. What gave me the idea? Well, as someone who has been through a lot for her age and has suffered the consequences of putting others before herself. I figured it was time for me to focus on me. Don't get me wrong, I love caring for people and I love knowing that I can be there for others no matter what. Eventually though, it started to wear down on me and I felt like I wasn't giving any attention to myself and my well being. And well, you know what they say: "You can't pour from an empty cup." That being said, I finally realized that I needed to love and care for myself, even if that meant others thought I was "selfish". As I've said before, you can definitely be committed to yourself without being selfish in the process. So, I started to create some self-care tasks for myself and I'm not going to lie, I feel pretty damn good. 

Liebster Award

Hello lovelies! I'm in such a good mood and here's why: I've been nominated for the Liebster Award by Natalie Benton. I've heard of the Liebster Award many times but, I never knew exactly what it was for. What I found out is that it's an award that is given to new bloggers from other new bloggers. Knowing this makes me feel great because it means that I'm really starting to establish myself in this new world that I'm now a part of. So, thank you Natalie for nominating me, love ya girly! As part of receiving the Liebster Award, one must...

An Open Letter to My Father

Man, time has been flying. It seems like just the other day it was Mother's Day and look at where we are now; Father's Day. Ever since I wrote "An Open Letter to My Mother", I've been waiting for this day. Though I've grown to look a lot like my mom, I have so many characteristics that I get from my dad and those characteristics make me who I am.

Self-Love 101

Living in a generation that constantly tells you what is wrong with you and how you can fix your flaws makes self-love crucial. Understand that no one is perfect and we all have our flaws, even when you see someone who seems untouchable. Understand that no one can be you better than you and that's what makes you special. However, there is a difference between loving yourself and being selfish or egoistic. Being able to distinguish between the two will create a life of balance and positivity. Here are a few self-love tips for you my lovelies!

6 Goals for Month 6

I can't believe we are officially half way through 2017! It doesn't seem like that much time has passed yet, here we are. If you're anything like me, you've already got your goals set out for the month of June. I try to make a list of things that I want to achieve each month to keep myself motivated and on track. Here are 6 goals that I have for the 6 month of the year:

1. Find a job. For those of you who know, I lost my job back in March and it's been tough finding another one. Of course, I could always apply for another starter job such as a fast food restaurant, a grocery story, or even the mall. You know what though? I've been there, I've done that, and I made a vow to myself that I would never go back to that. I've busted my butt through these 4 years of college and I'll be damned if I allow myself to work a mediocre job when I have a Bachelor's Degree. I'm determined to find the perfect job for me; one that offers good pay and plenty of useful experience for my future career. I just received my clearance today from the State of Michigan to work for companies that offer programs focused on Child Abuse/Neglect. Hopefully, the job that I applied for will think I'm an excellent candidate and I can start working soon. However, if I don't get the position, you can bet that I'll be applying for 2 jobs per day until I find something.

2. Find an apartment. With my roommate moving out in August, rent is going to be expensive on my own; plus all of the other bills that come with living in an apartment. So, I'm in the process of looking for a new place that is cheaper and offers more amenities that will cut down the cost of the amount of bills that I have. I think I may have found a place already. I'm praying that it works out for me. In the meantime, I've been selling pretty much everything I have because I'm excited to start all over. This will be my first apartment after college and I want it to look exactly how I always planned out my first real apartment. It's time to get crafty and personalize everything from here on out.

3. Save money. Since I've decided to take a gap year before starting graduate school, I really need to focus on building up my savings account and my credit score. I don't know what job lies ahead of me or how much I'll be making but, I definitely will try my hardest to start saving $100/week. I want to make sure that I'm covered when I finally leave Michigan and I also want to get a little bit of traveling done in the meantime. Not to mention, there may be the purchase of a new car in the making.

4. Re-gain my motivation. Everything that I've been going through over the past couple of months has really taken a toll on me. Between my personal life, taking full-time summer classes, and looking for a new job, my brain is completely dead. I've somehow managed to find the motivation to push through my classes but, I definitely need to stop sitting around feeling sorry for myself. It's easy to let yourself slip through the cracks when there is so much stacked against you. Thankfully, I'm starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel and it's really helped me to re-gain my motivation and my confidence. 

5. Change in diet. Sometimes I find myself getting so busy that I don't have time to cook nor do I want to even make the time. However, I noticed that all of the junk that I was eating and drinking was really effecting my body in the most negative ways. My diet was a big part of me having no motivation. I just always felt sluggish and less energized. My physical appearance was also starting to decline which was the worst; especially because acne is one of my worst insecurities. I've gotten back on track with my healthy diet and also have made time to cook more. I couldn't be more proud of myself. I've also been cutting out a lot of my grocery expenses by learning how to cook homemade meals to avoid buying unnecessary food that I don't need when I can just take a little more extra time to make them from scratch.

6. Drink more water. Anyone who knows me, knows that I hate the taste of water and yes, different brands do have different tastes. I have discovered that Nestle Purified Water doesn't taste that bad though (cold or warm). So I've been able to drink a lot more water than I usually do. I actually just gave up the bad habit of buying juice unless it's orange/apple juice. Water has been my main source of drinking and my skin has been glowing ever since I started drinking it more (with a little wine here and there).

There you have it! My 6 goals for month 6. What are yours? Let's support each other in accomplishing our goals this month and every month from this point on.

An Open Letter to My Mother

It's Mother's Day today and it's almost noon. My mom probably thinks I've forgotten by now since I haven't called her yet but, I haven't. I'm just taking some time to write this post; as a present because gift giving isn't about the cost, it's about the thought. Every Mother's Day and Father's Day (which has yet to come), I always think about the things that I'm thankful for that pertain to my parents. Today, I'm thankful for my mom for the following things:

Fortune Cookies: Yay or Nay?

About 2 weeks ago, I decided to give Panda Express a try for the first time. For those of you who don't know, Panda Express is an Asian Cuisine restaurant. I had never had it before but, I heard it was pretty good so I thought, "why not?". I ended up getting some type of sweet and sour chicken, fried rice, and noodles. As I was checking out, I noticed a basket of fortune cookies sitting near the register and decided to grab one. It's just one of those things you do, you know? I don't know too many people who will eat at an Asian restaurant and not grab a fortune cookie on the way to their seat. That's just unrealistic. Anyway, when I got to my seat, the first thing I did was open my fortune cookie and here's what the fortune said: